This thing called mindfulness
''Mindfulness is the awareness that emerges through paying attention,
in the present moment,
to things as the are.''
We can say that mindfulness is simply paying attention to whatever our experience is at each moment. This sounds very simple and it is simple. The difficulty however is to remind ourselves to do so. We are constantly busy in getting somewhere, in achieving something that we are forgetting to reserve some time for simply being.
Another difficulty in cultivating mindfulness lies in the quality of the mind. The mind likes to wander. The mind likes to engage with different kind of thoughts to keep us busy. Through mindfulness, we train our minds to not get caught into those thoughts. However, we do not try to control the thoughts, but rather, we take a step back, we observe them, acknowledge them, and let them go.
We can compare the busy mind to a surface of the ocean. The ocean can be still but often there are storms with large waves. We cannot stop the waves but we can learn to surf.
In the meditation exercises we often use breath as an object of focus. We sit still for some period of time and we keep observing the breath. The mind can be busy, it can wander, we notice it and we go back to the exercise, which is observing the breath. The breath is always there, our anchor to make a new start, as often as it is necessary.
Focusing on breathing can be also useful to remind you, that although there is a storm at the ocean at this moment, deep under the surface, the waters are still, and for the few moments during the storm, you can find calmness and clarity.
How can mindfulness help me?
Mindfulness training can help you to find the calmness in the busy life.
It can help you to deal more skillfully with the difficult emotions and stress. There might be still many waves at the ocean but you can learn how to surf.
Mindfulness can also help you to find more awareness in your life. By training your attention you might become more aware of the little moments in your daily life.
It can also help you to bring more clarity into your life by training your mind to see, that although the circumstances have not changed, there are different ways to respond to them. It is up to you how you react to the events in your life